Monday, October 26, 2009

Adios My Very Special Amigo Frank

26 October 2009

A few hours ago today and incidentally exactly a week to the day that I arrived back home I recieved the most upsetting news via e-mail from my dear friend Lynsey in Cusco....

Subject: Bad News Do Not Open At Work
>Hi Mina,
This is the hardest email I have ever written, if I had your phone number I would be calling as has been the worst day ever. If you are at work and have opened this please wait till you get home before you read the rest.

I had to tell you. I went into San Juan De Dios this morning and Frank has died over the weekend.



When I read those words my world came crashing down around me, I could not believe what I had just read, my beautiful, smiley, loving and affectionate little baby Frank was no longer with us.



How could this be? It couldn't possibly be true it's not possible it's Frank, full of energy, full of life and soo much love and affection. Writing and talking about Frank in the past tense feels so wrong. But it is true he is not with us anymore.

I cannot begin to describe what an amazing little boy he was, I will say however, no amount of words can ever do him justice. He had the most affectionate little smile and laugh, was always so bubbly and energetic and what he loved doing the most was cuddling and hugging all those around him, especially all the other children. I often had to prise him apart from the other children because he was holding on to them so tight, but he was just so excitable when he was able to physically shower the other children with affection i.e. when he was out of his wheelchair.

I will miss him terribly and you might be thinking what a bold statement for me to make having spent less then two weeks with him, but I cannot stress enough how much of an amazing little star he was and it was impossible not to adore him and want to spend more time with him. It was such a privilege to have spent time with this wonderful little boy.

At the mere age of eight years Frank would have put any adult to shame with his loving and affectionate personality. To say that the loss of Frank is a big loss to all and especially to the children at San Juan De Dios, does not come anywhere near close to how much of a loss it really is and how much he will be missed by the other children.

I want to scream and shout in anger about him being taken away and I feel so helpless and useless as there is nothing I can do to bring him back. What upsets me furthermore is that this so very special little boy has no family to give him a proper goodbye and it upsets me to think how lonely he might have felt this weekend.

I feel useless about the fact that I am not even able to help arrange a proper goodbye that he very much deserves and so I have a special request to ask of you all. I appreciate that you had not had the pleasure of meeting Frank but I am sure you will agree that taking one look at him in these pictures gives you an insight of what a special person he was, my request is, Please will you take a moment to think of Frank and what a wonderful little boy he was.



Frank you are a little angel may you rest in peace.
All My Love
Your Amigo Mina

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Con Amor De Mina, Familia Y Amigos

Friday 16 October

What a day Friday was! In all honesty because I am so excited and thrilled to tell you about what wonderful day it was I don`t know where to start(!) however, I shall try to keep this post coherent for your ease of reading.

Having arrived in a taxi loaded with bags and boxes it took a good few minutes to transfer everything into the safe house, fortunately we had ensured that everything was either wrapped or covered giving nothing away to the girls so that they enjoyed a big surprise. The girls were very pleased to see us and due to having made some decorations the previous day they were aware that we were having a party, and so they asked if they should get the decorations out and up to which the response was `claro` (of course!). My word did the girls move fast, with all tables cleared paper chains out and up, at which point I was busy thinking to myself that if the paper chains can cause them such excitement I cannot wait to see how they react to heir little gifts.

Whilst some of the girls were hard at work arranging the room, some of the girls were helping me to unload the bags of fruit I had purchased for a fruit salad that I wanted to make with them for dessert, you might think that was rather dull on my part but I assure you I have never had such an inquisitive and pleasantly surprised reaction to fruit salad. The fruits I bought were:
-Apples;
-Banana's (OK and a couple of plantains in error, oops!);
-Black grapes;
-Papaya;
-Pineapple;
-Mango;
-Star fruit; and
-Kiwi fruit.

I am sure you will agree all of the fruits purchased were what you would expect to see in a fruit salad, but for these girls it was a first where the fruit listed below papaya is concerned. The intrigue and the puzzled looks when we got to the preparation of these fruits was something I had not expected to this extent. The fruits purchased were carefully chosen because these are fruits that they have on a colourful poster annotated in English and Spanish and I wanted the girls to know what these fruits are like, how they should be eaten i.e. peeled, whole etc and what they tasted like, if nothing else it would help them to learn the names in English! I am struggling to explain to you how privileged I felt teaching and introducing the girls to fruits they had not come across before but I will try. With the fruits that the girls were already familiar with chopping and adding to the bowl was no issue but when it came to the kiwi fruit they came to a stand still, firstly they were surprised by the texture of the skin and didn`treally know what to do with it, so I explained and demonstrated that it needed to be peeled and then eaten I said that they should try some but by the looks on their faces it was clear they were not going to, so I ate a piece and it was only then that they reluctantly tried some. The looks on their faces was just a picture, thankfully though the taste was to all of their liking, and this is how the preparation of the rest of the fruit salad went in relation to the mango and pineapple. Needless to say despite me having a cold room (to ensure the fruit did not go off!) that smelt rather fruity room the night before it was in my view the perfect choice of dessert especially once we had added the chocolate and strawberry sauce which went down a treat!

Once we had put up the decorations and the fruit salad was all prepared minus the mango stones that had been added (I must admit this did make me smile to myself) we had just enough time for a bit of a boogie which we all enjoyed!

Next it was time for lunch, although I had arranged for pizza to be delivered for all the girls had also been busy before preparing some side dishes to go with the pizza, the lunch was superb, starting with quinoa soup, followed by pizza and spinach pie followed by a sweet stewed apple dish and then the fruits of their labour the fresh fruit salad!

Watching the girls whilst the pizza was being served was such a treat for me, once again I was able to introduce them to something new and different that they had only ever read about and seen pictures of, this was particularly clear in the way in which they proceeded to eat the pizza; they started to eat only the topping leaving the base and then went on to eat the base, once they saw me eat the pizza biting into it whole they soon followed in the same manner. To say that I felt humbled does not quite cover it.

After lunch came the giving of the presents with each present individually wrapped and labelled to perfection addressed to each girl Con Amor De Mina, Familia Y Amigos this made for a smooth process presenting each girl with their gift. The one thing I could not prepare for was how this was going to make me feel. Every gift was received with such excitement and gratitude that you might be mistaken for thinking that these girls had just been given the equivalent to a brand new wardrobe, including shoes make up and an outing! Once all of the gifts had been presented the girls opened their parcel paying careful attention to ensure the paper was not damaged (it was Disney wrapping paper which they have books of so they were excited by it and I know will be kept by them for some time to come). Each girl who is also a mother opened their child's present first, portraying classic maternal behaviour, given their age and circumstances it really was a joy to see that despite everything they have been through the girls love for their babies is unconditional. When the girls wre opening their presents the gasps of excitement and excitable behaviour is something that words cannot capture I wish you could have all seen how much happiness your generosity brought to these girls. Each and every one of the girls gave me the biggest hug you can imagine and the phrase `gracious senorita` still brings tears to my eyes as I think back to that moment, needless to say I struggled to hold back the tears when I was around the girls and the more the girls consoled me the more upset I became; these beautiful young girls are truly amazing and I am so pleased, proud and thankful to you all for giving them the opportunity to experience some happiness that they so truly deserve.

I am very pleased to say that the fun did not stop after all of the gifts had been distributed as there was still the giving of the communal gifts which consisted of toys for the toddlers i.e. abacus, pull along train, world globe etc, baby / toddler equipment i.e. a baby walker and a multi purpose cot and finally a computer!



All of the gifts were received with many, many thanks and even more hugs. I know that each and every gift will be looked after and appreciated for a very long time.

I truly hope that I have successfully managed to describe to you why this was one of the most amazing days that I have had the honour and pleasure of experiencing and also to try and give to you an indication of the happiness that you have helped to provide because it truly was a day to remember and one that I hope the girls will look back on in years to come and see as a happy fun day where they were the centre of attention and enjoyed an element of normality in their lives.

On behalf of all of the girls at the safe house I would like to say a very big thank you to you all for your kindness and generosity, you know who you are.

Personally I would like to thank you dearly and sincerely for taking the time to read my blog and thanks to your generosity were able to help me to create some happy memories for all of the girls.

Love and best wishes
Mina
XXX

Friday, October 16, 2009

The Night Before...

Friday 16 October

Yesterday evening was a very long busy evening for me and my two fantastic helpers Lynsey and Liz, consisting of shopping, shopping, more shopping and then the wrapping of the shopping for today´s party at the safe house.


Workers working hard through the night having taken over the hostal.

Having obtained each of the girls and their childrens shoes and clothes sizes we proceeded to buy each of the girls and their children a few items by way of a present from us all, each gift parcel consists of the following:
- a pair of shoes;
- a toothbrush;
- a text book,
- a pencil;
- hair accessories;
- lip balm;
- mini sweet treats;

The little ones have all of the above plus a set of clothes each.

In addition to the above thanks to your kind generosity we have also been able to buy for the safe house the following for communal use;
- an all in one rocker / play house cot;
- a baby walker;
- various educational toys such as a globe, abacus, pull along train for the babies and toddlers as they have very little to play with, and
- a computer!

My word is that the time? I didn´t get any zzz´z(!) quick shower, change and off we go its party time!


Phew all done!


I cannot wait to see the little girls faces when they recive thier small presents, I promise to try and capture every moment so you don´t miss out.

Ciao for now!

Ps A big thank you to both Lynsey and Liz for traipsing around the shops for hours and hours and then spending the evening and the early hours of the morning wrapping and wrapping!

Party Preparation

Thursday 15 October

Today at the safe house we did exactly as the title describes, we prepared for our party tomorrow (Friday). Our preparation consisted of making decorations including the classic favourite; paper chains, using exceptionally bright colours!

To be able to work effectively it is highly important that party organisers are not working on empty stomachs as such milk and cookies were provided for all, which worked a treat as a motivator creating exceptionally smiley, happy paper chain makers!



The girls really enjoyed learning to make something different and although it is a simple concept it was very effective in keeping them entertained. The girls are like all children, sponges just absorbing everything they are taught. It is such a joy to carry out new activities with them because they have such an eagerness and enthusiastic attitude to want to learn new skills and try different things.

When I got to the safe house today I had noticed that the atmosphere was a little subdued and a couple of the girls appeared to be upset, but when I asked what the matter was they would not say, put on a brave face and told me everything was fine, however, it was very clear that was not the case. I felt so helpless as they wouldn´t talk to me but not wanting to push the matter I decided that a big hug in the absence of being able to do anything else was the correct form of action and given the reciprocaton to the hug it seemed to be the best form of action.

The girls are just extraordinary, not once during the last two weeks have I ever seen them complain, whinge or moan about anything regardless of whether they are in sewing class, kitchen or child minding duty nor have I ever seen them squabble amongst each other, just a few reasons making these girls special.

Today for the first time one of the ladies (Paulina) at the safe house asked for some help from me by way of requesting some clothes for herself and her five year old son Juan, she explained that she and Juan had no clothes other than those they were wearing because they had to leave their house in a hurry not being able to bring anything with them but also that she had no clothes to bring with her because her husband had burnt them all and had then proceeded to beat her and her son. It was heartbreaking listening to what Paulina had been through, it was also quite clear looking at Juan that her husband had also caused the burn marks on Juan's beautiful face. I was at the safe house when they first arrived and Juan was understandably very quiet and clinging on to his mother, however, today he seemed to have come out of his shell and appeared to be happily playing with the other little ones and was also interacting with me, the girls had clearly made him feel so very welcome, feel safe and at ease that it really does feel like one big family the way they all rally around each other when they need to, it is truly amazing considering what traumatic experiences they have all been through which is just another reason why they all deserve some happiness in their lives, tomorrow I have just the the thing in mind to provide them with some truly deserved fun and happiness...

Thursday, October 15, 2009

A Quickie For Now...

Dear All,

Thank you for all of your donations I know I must sound like a broken record for which I am not going to apologise and will in fact repeat myself again by telling you how invaluable your generosity is. For those of you that would like to donate and have not so far been able to do so it is not to late.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Showing You The Money

Wednesday 14 October

I cannot stress to you enough how invaluable your kind generosity by way of donations is. To try and give you some idea of the happiness and smiles you have helped to create for the girls at the safe house I thought you´d like to know how much fun the girls had today thanks to you...

Today my activity with the girls was a little out of the ordinary and something which I must admit I would not ordinarily be very enthusiastic about doing because it´s purpose was not educational, or to learn a life skill or anything that is asociated with enabling the girls to be self sufficient when they leave the house in due course, so what was the activity? Manicures(!) for each of the girls. The reason for such a choice of activity was to enable the girls to be young girls and spend some time having fun purely on themselves, something which has not happened in many, many years which is a very long time especially when you are in your early teens. I have no doubt you will agree with me when I thought that it was high time these girls were spoilt even if on a minuscule level. If anybody deserves to be spoilt then these girls most cerainly do given what they have already been through in what is supposed to be the fun, innocent and carefree years of life.

The girls were so excited when they saw the collection of nail polish colours, creams and other various bits and pieces I had bought and taken to the safehouse. When they chose their nail polish colour they were so excitable it was just brilliant and heartwarming to see and be a part of. When we had finished doing our manicures (the girls insisted that they gave me one to and it would have been rude to refuse) complete with a hand massage and glitter overcoat (of course)I told them that the nail polish that they had each chosen was thiers to keep, the gasps of wow and hugs that I received spoke far louder then words could have. To say that the manicure and the small gift of a nail polish each had made their day does not quite cover it.

Am sure all you girls (and boys?) out there will fully appreciate that being pampered can be thirsty work indeed and so to ensure the girls did not go thirsty and received the best treatment they were provided with the finest freshest fruit juice, you might be thinking that this really is nothing to shout home about and certainly not post on a blog but, this couldn´t be further from the truth and the reason for this is because the girls do not have the pleasure of what we deem to be an everyday drink, as sad and as upsettig as it sounds fruit juice is very much a luxury item for the girls, to try and give you some comprehension of what a treat the girls consider this to be would be the equivalent of you and I having for example, a glass of champagne with a meal and then multiplying the feeling of being indulgent. Reflectng on this situation even as I write leaves me speechless but I hope has given you some idea that the smallest of things makes a difference to these girls and no matter how small you might think your contribution has been please, please believe me when I tell you it has, is and will be making a difference for the better to the girls. I hope that knowing that you have positively affected these childrens lives puts a smile on your face.

Finally amigo´s without giving to much away I would suggest you watch this space to find out what other fun, fantastic and educational things your money has done.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Let Them Eat Cake

Tuesday 13 October

Today I was greeted with one of the most friendliest welcomes at the safe house, as soon as I was let into the house a couple of the girls came running over to me and flung there arms around me giving me the most biggest hug and promptly thereafter pulled me by my arm to the table where they were making friendship bracelets, they then proceeded to tie not one, not two or even three but four friendship bracelets around my wrist. I couldn't´t believe how much affection they had for me having only known me for less than two weeks and despite the fact that our conversations were mainly via body language and animated actions due to my lack of Spanish speaking skills. Having been on the receiving end of such a lovely welcome I knew that stopping off at the patisserie to pick up a chocolate cake for the girls on my way into the safe house was a very good idea!


Soon after my warm welcome it became very apparent that the girls are all so very warm hearted, welcoming and accepting of others. A new mother and her son arrived at the safe house today shortly after I did as a result of a court order for their protection. The little boy is five years old and very quiet, the girls asked the boys mother if the boy could speak and if he was OK, to which the mother replied that he spoke very little, this however, was not a problem as they soon took him under their wings and made him very welcome as you can see...















When the girls saw the chocolate cake their immediate reaction was to ask me if it was my last day with them and when I said no they went on to ask whose birthday it was, I explained that it was´nt my last day and nor was it anybody´s birthday which puzzled them because they could not understand why I had taken a cake in for them. Whilst I have not become case hardened to what I learn about the girls I have now come to accept and understand that these girls have very little or next to nothing of what you and I would consider to be the norm/the expected in life which relates to the most trivial of things from eating cake for no special reason, to being given unconditional love and care that we all receive from family and friends and so what I want to achieve is to try and introduce these day to day things into their lives and to try and give to them as best as I can in the given situation some love affection and normality by way of what may seem to us to be very small things but mean so much to the girls.


The chocolate cake certainly proved to be the flavour of the day going down well with all...
in fact some just couldn't´t get enough of it so naturally with this being a case involving chocolate cake the situation understandably called for desperate measures...










That´s all for now folks until next time ciao!