Monday, October 26, 2009

Adios My Very Special Amigo Frank

26 October 2009

A few hours ago today and incidentally exactly a week to the day that I arrived back home I recieved the most upsetting news via e-mail from my dear friend Lynsey in Cusco....

Subject: Bad News Do Not Open At Work
>Hi Mina,
This is the hardest email I have ever written, if I had your phone number I would be calling as has been the worst day ever. If you are at work and have opened this please wait till you get home before you read the rest.

I had to tell you. I went into San Juan De Dios this morning and Frank has died over the weekend.



When I read those words my world came crashing down around me, I could not believe what I had just read, my beautiful, smiley, loving and affectionate little baby Frank was no longer with us.



How could this be? It couldn't possibly be true it's not possible it's Frank, full of energy, full of life and soo much love and affection. Writing and talking about Frank in the past tense feels so wrong. But it is true he is not with us anymore.

I cannot begin to describe what an amazing little boy he was, I will say however, no amount of words can ever do him justice. He had the most affectionate little smile and laugh, was always so bubbly and energetic and what he loved doing the most was cuddling and hugging all those around him, especially all the other children. I often had to prise him apart from the other children because he was holding on to them so tight, but he was just so excitable when he was able to physically shower the other children with affection i.e. when he was out of his wheelchair.

I will miss him terribly and you might be thinking what a bold statement for me to make having spent less then two weeks with him, but I cannot stress enough how much of an amazing little star he was and it was impossible not to adore him and want to spend more time with him. It was such a privilege to have spent time with this wonderful little boy.

At the mere age of eight years Frank would have put any adult to shame with his loving and affectionate personality. To say that the loss of Frank is a big loss to all and especially to the children at San Juan De Dios, does not come anywhere near close to how much of a loss it really is and how much he will be missed by the other children.

I want to scream and shout in anger about him being taken away and I feel so helpless and useless as there is nothing I can do to bring him back. What upsets me furthermore is that this so very special little boy has no family to give him a proper goodbye and it upsets me to think how lonely he might have felt this weekend.

I feel useless about the fact that I am not even able to help arrange a proper goodbye that he very much deserves and so I have a special request to ask of you all. I appreciate that you had not had the pleasure of meeting Frank but I am sure you will agree that taking one look at him in these pictures gives you an insight of what a special person he was, my request is, Please will you take a moment to think of Frank and what a wonderful little boy he was.



Frank you are a little angel may you rest in peace.
All My Love
Your Amigo Mina

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Con Amor De Mina, Familia Y Amigos

Friday 16 October

What a day Friday was! In all honesty because I am so excited and thrilled to tell you about what wonderful day it was I don`t know where to start(!) however, I shall try to keep this post coherent for your ease of reading.

Having arrived in a taxi loaded with bags and boxes it took a good few minutes to transfer everything into the safe house, fortunately we had ensured that everything was either wrapped or covered giving nothing away to the girls so that they enjoyed a big surprise. The girls were very pleased to see us and due to having made some decorations the previous day they were aware that we were having a party, and so they asked if they should get the decorations out and up to which the response was `claro` (of course!). My word did the girls move fast, with all tables cleared paper chains out and up, at which point I was busy thinking to myself that if the paper chains can cause them such excitement I cannot wait to see how they react to heir little gifts.

Whilst some of the girls were hard at work arranging the room, some of the girls were helping me to unload the bags of fruit I had purchased for a fruit salad that I wanted to make with them for dessert, you might think that was rather dull on my part but I assure you I have never had such an inquisitive and pleasantly surprised reaction to fruit salad. The fruits I bought were:
-Apples;
-Banana's (OK and a couple of plantains in error, oops!);
-Black grapes;
-Papaya;
-Pineapple;
-Mango;
-Star fruit; and
-Kiwi fruit.

I am sure you will agree all of the fruits purchased were what you would expect to see in a fruit salad, but for these girls it was a first where the fruit listed below papaya is concerned. The intrigue and the puzzled looks when we got to the preparation of these fruits was something I had not expected to this extent. The fruits purchased were carefully chosen because these are fruits that they have on a colourful poster annotated in English and Spanish and I wanted the girls to know what these fruits are like, how they should be eaten i.e. peeled, whole etc and what they tasted like, if nothing else it would help them to learn the names in English! I am struggling to explain to you how privileged I felt teaching and introducing the girls to fruits they had not come across before but I will try. With the fruits that the girls were already familiar with chopping and adding to the bowl was no issue but when it came to the kiwi fruit they came to a stand still, firstly they were surprised by the texture of the skin and didn`treally know what to do with it, so I explained and demonstrated that it needed to be peeled and then eaten I said that they should try some but by the looks on their faces it was clear they were not going to, so I ate a piece and it was only then that they reluctantly tried some. The looks on their faces was just a picture, thankfully though the taste was to all of their liking, and this is how the preparation of the rest of the fruit salad went in relation to the mango and pineapple. Needless to say despite me having a cold room (to ensure the fruit did not go off!) that smelt rather fruity room the night before it was in my view the perfect choice of dessert especially once we had added the chocolate and strawberry sauce which went down a treat!

Once we had put up the decorations and the fruit salad was all prepared minus the mango stones that had been added (I must admit this did make me smile to myself) we had just enough time for a bit of a boogie which we all enjoyed!

Next it was time for lunch, although I had arranged for pizza to be delivered for all the girls had also been busy before preparing some side dishes to go with the pizza, the lunch was superb, starting with quinoa soup, followed by pizza and spinach pie followed by a sweet stewed apple dish and then the fruits of their labour the fresh fruit salad!

Watching the girls whilst the pizza was being served was such a treat for me, once again I was able to introduce them to something new and different that they had only ever read about and seen pictures of, this was particularly clear in the way in which they proceeded to eat the pizza; they started to eat only the topping leaving the base and then went on to eat the base, once they saw me eat the pizza biting into it whole they soon followed in the same manner. To say that I felt humbled does not quite cover it.

After lunch came the giving of the presents with each present individually wrapped and labelled to perfection addressed to each girl Con Amor De Mina, Familia Y Amigos this made for a smooth process presenting each girl with their gift. The one thing I could not prepare for was how this was going to make me feel. Every gift was received with such excitement and gratitude that you might be mistaken for thinking that these girls had just been given the equivalent to a brand new wardrobe, including shoes make up and an outing! Once all of the gifts had been presented the girls opened their parcel paying careful attention to ensure the paper was not damaged (it was Disney wrapping paper which they have books of so they were excited by it and I know will be kept by them for some time to come). Each girl who is also a mother opened their child's present first, portraying classic maternal behaviour, given their age and circumstances it really was a joy to see that despite everything they have been through the girls love for their babies is unconditional. When the girls wre opening their presents the gasps of excitement and excitable behaviour is something that words cannot capture I wish you could have all seen how much happiness your generosity brought to these girls. Each and every one of the girls gave me the biggest hug you can imagine and the phrase `gracious senorita` still brings tears to my eyes as I think back to that moment, needless to say I struggled to hold back the tears when I was around the girls and the more the girls consoled me the more upset I became; these beautiful young girls are truly amazing and I am so pleased, proud and thankful to you all for giving them the opportunity to experience some happiness that they so truly deserve.

I am very pleased to say that the fun did not stop after all of the gifts had been distributed as there was still the giving of the communal gifts which consisted of toys for the toddlers i.e. abacus, pull along train, world globe etc, baby / toddler equipment i.e. a baby walker and a multi purpose cot and finally a computer!



All of the gifts were received with many, many thanks and even more hugs. I know that each and every gift will be looked after and appreciated for a very long time.

I truly hope that I have successfully managed to describe to you why this was one of the most amazing days that I have had the honour and pleasure of experiencing and also to try and give to you an indication of the happiness that you have helped to provide because it truly was a day to remember and one that I hope the girls will look back on in years to come and see as a happy fun day where they were the centre of attention and enjoyed an element of normality in their lives.

On behalf of all of the girls at the safe house I would like to say a very big thank you to you all for your kindness and generosity, you know who you are.

Personally I would like to thank you dearly and sincerely for taking the time to read my blog and thanks to your generosity were able to help me to create some happy memories for all of the girls.

Love and best wishes
Mina
XXX

Friday, October 16, 2009

The Night Before...

Friday 16 October

Yesterday evening was a very long busy evening for me and my two fantastic helpers Lynsey and Liz, consisting of shopping, shopping, more shopping and then the wrapping of the shopping for today´s party at the safe house.


Workers working hard through the night having taken over the hostal.

Having obtained each of the girls and their childrens shoes and clothes sizes we proceeded to buy each of the girls and their children a few items by way of a present from us all, each gift parcel consists of the following:
- a pair of shoes;
- a toothbrush;
- a text book,
- a pencil;
- hair accessories;
- lip balm;
- mini sweet treats;

The little ones have all of the above plus a set of clothes each.

In addition to the above thanks to your kind generosity we have also been able to buy for the safe house the following for communal use;
- an all in one rocker / play house cot;
- a baby walker;
- various educational toys such as a globe, abacus, pull along train for the babies and toddlers as they have very little to play with, and
- a computer!

My word is that the time? I didn´t get any zzz´z(!) quick shower, change and off we go its party time!


Phew all done!


I cannot wait to see the little girls faces when they recive thier small presents, I promise to try and capture every moment so you don´t miss out.

Ciao for now!

Ps A big thank you to both Lynsey and Liz for traipsing around the shops for hours and hours and then spending the evening and the early hours of the morning wrapping and wrapping!

Party Preparation

Thursday 15 October

Today at the safe house we did exactly as the title describes, we prepared for our party tomorrow (Friday). Our preparation consisted of making decorations including the classic favourite; paper chains, using exceptionally bright colours!

To be able to work effectively it is highly important that party organisers are not working on empty stomachs as such milk and cookies were provided for all, which worked a treat as a motivator creating exceptionally smiley, happy paper chain makers!



The girls really enjoyed learning to make something different and although it is a simple concept it was very effective in keeping them entertained. The girls are like all children, sponges just absorbing everything they are taught. It is such a joy to carry out new activities with them because they have such an eagerness and enthusiastic attitude to want to learn new skills and try different things.

When I got to the safe house today I had noticed that the atmosphere was a little subdued and a couple of the girls appeared to be upset, but when I asked what the matter was they would not say, put on a brave face and told me everything was fine, however, it was very clear that was not the case. I felt so helpless as they wouldn´t talk to me but not wanting to push the matter I decided that a big hug in the absence of being able to do anything else was the correct form of action and given the reciprocaton to the hug it seemed to be the best form of action.

The girls are just extraordinary, not once during the last two weeks have I ever seen them complain, whinge or moan about anything regardless of whether they are in sewing class, kitchen or child minding duty nor have I ever seen them squabble amongst each other, just a few reasons making these girls special.

Today for the first time one of the ladies (Paulina) at the safe house asked for some help from me by way of requesting some clothes for herself and her five year old son Juan, she explained that she and Juan had no clothes other than those they were wearing because they had to leave their house in a hurry not being able to bring anything with them but also that she had no clothes to bring with her because her husband had burnt them all and had then proceeded to beat her and her son. It was heartbreaking listening to what Paulina had been through, it was also quite clear looking at Juan that her husband had also caused the burn marks on Juan's beautiful face. I was at the safe house when they first arrived and Juan was understandably very quiet and clinging on to his mother, however, today he seemed to have come out of his shell and appeared to be happily playing with the other little ones and was also interacting with me, the girls had clearly made him feel so very welcome, feel safe and at ease that it really does feel like one big family the way they all rally around each other when they need to, it is truly amazing considering what traumatic experiences they have all been through which is just another reason why they all deserve some happiness in their lives, tomorrow I have just the the thing in mind to provide them with some truly deserved fun and happiness...

Thursday, October 15, 2009

A Quickie For Now...

Dear All,

Thank you for all of your donations I know I must sound like a broken record for which I am not going to apologise and will in fact repeat myself again by telling you how invaluable your generosity is. For those of you that would like to donate and have not so far been able to do so it is not to late.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Showing You The Money

Wednesday 14 October

I cannot stress to you enough how invaluable your kind generosity by way of donations is. To try and give you some idea of the happiness and smiles you have helped to create for the girls at the safe house I thought you´d like to know how much fun the girls had today thanks to you...

Today my activity with the girls was a little out of the ordinary and something which I must admit I would not ordinarily be very enthusiastic about doing because it´s purpose was not educational, or to learn a life skill or anything that is asociated with enabling the girls to be self sufficient when they leave the house in due course, so what was the activity? Manicures(!) for each of the girls. The reason for such a choice of activity was to enable the girls to be young girls and spend some time having fun purely on themselves, something which has not happened in many, many years which is a very long time especially when you are in your early teens. I have no doubt you will agree with me when I thought that it was high time these girls were spoilt even if on a minuscule level. If anybody deserves to be spoilt then these girls most cerainly do given what they have already been through in what is supposed to be the fun, innocent and carefree years of life.

The girls were so excited when they saw the collection of nail polish colours, creams and other various bits and pieces I had bought and taken to the safehouse. When they chose their nail polish colour they were so excitable it was just brilliant and heartwarming to see and be a part of. When we had finished doing our manicures (the girls insisted that they gave me one to and it would have been rude to refuse) complete with a hand massage and glitter overcoat (of course)I told them that the nail polish that they had each chosen was thiers to keep, the gasps of wow and hugs that I received spoke far louder then words could have. To say that the manicure and the small gift of a nail polish each had made their day does not quite cover it.

Am sure all you girls (and boys?) out there will fully appreciate that being pampered can be thirsty work indeed and so to ensure the girls did not go thirsty and received the best treatment they were provided with the finest freshest fruit juice, you might be thinking that this really is nothing to shout home about and certainly not post on a blog but, this couldn´t be further from the truth and the reason for this is because the girls do not have the pleasure of what we deem to be an everyday drink, as sad and as upsettig as it sounds fruit juice is very much a luxury item for the girls, to try and give you some comprehension of what a treat the girls consider this to be would be the equivalent of you and I having for example, a glass of champagne with a meal and then multiplying the feeling of being indulgent. Reflectng on this situation even as I write leaves me speechless but I hope has given you some idea that the smallest of things makes a difference to these girls and no matter how small you might think your contribution has been please, please believe me when I tell you it has, is and will be making a difference for the better to the girls. I hope that knowing that you have positively affected these childrens lives puts a smile on your face.

Finally amigo´s without giving to much away I would suggest you watch this space to find out what other fun, fantastic and educational things your money has done.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Let Them Eat Cake

Tuesday 13 October

Today I was greeted with one of the most friendliest welcomes at the safe house, as soon as I was let into the house a couple of the girls came running over to me and flung there arms around me giving me the most biggest hug and promptly thereafter pulled me by my arm to the table where they were making friendship bracelets, they then proceeded to tie not one, not two or even three but four friendship bracelets around my wrist. I couldn't´t believe how much affection they had for me having only known me for less than two weeks and despite the fact that our conversations were mainly via body language and animated actions due to my lack of Spanish speaking skills. Having been on the receiving end of such a lovely welcome I knew that stopping off at the patisserie to pick up a chocolate cake for the girls on my way into the safe house was a very good idea!


Soon after my warm welcome it became very apparent that the girls are all so very warm hearted, welcoming and accepting of others. A new mother and her son arrived at the safe house today shortly after I did as a result of a court order for their protection. The little boy is five years old and very quiet, the girls asked the boys mother if the boy could speak and if he was OK, to which the mother replied that he spoke very little, this however, was not a problem as they soon took him under their wings and made him very welcome as you can see...















When the girls saw the chocolate cake their immediate reaction was to ask me if it was my last day with them and when I said no they went on to ask whose birthday it was, I explained that it was´nt my last day and nor was it anybody´s birthday which puzzled them because they could not understand why I had taken a cake in for them. Whilst I have not become case hardened to what I learn about the girls I have now come to accept and understand that these girls have very little or next to nothing of what you and I would consider to be the norm/the expected in life which relates to the most trivial of things from eating cake for no special reason, to being given unconditional love and care that we all receive from family and friends and so what I want to achieve is to try and introduce these day to day things into their lives and to try and give to them as best as I can in the given situation some love affection and normality by way of what may seem to us to be very small things but mean so much to the girls.


The chocolate cake certainly proved to be the flavour of the day going down well with all...
in fact some just couldn't´t get enough of it so naturally with this being a case involving chocolate cake the situation understandably called for desperate measures...










That´s all for now folks until next time ciao!

Monday, October 12, 2009

Shop Until I Drop

Monday 12 October

Due to the kind generosity of you; my family, friends, colleagues and Moneysupermarket.com Limited today I was able to have one of the most positive meetings I have ever had with a lady by the name of Carmen who runs the safe house about how we can help the girls.

We discussed items that the girls needed and when I asked Carmen what things would make the girls happy and be of use to them her response was a small treat each for example a chocolate or something similar, I have to say I was very taken aback by this and for one brief moment was speechless, it is quite clear that even though the safe house is not state funded Carmen does not have any expectations of the volunteers like me. Thanks to your generosity it was with great confidence, pride and happiness that I was able to inform Carmen that we were able to do much better then that, much better indeed.

I explained that we wanted to help the girls and their children today, tomorrow and for the future, in response Carmen´s exact words were that they had been sent a blessing from above and they were exceptionally grateful for any help we could provide them with.

Tomorrow (Tuesday 13 October) I am going to be provided with a list of all of the girls and their children's vital statistics i.e. shoe size, height etc so that I can buy them each everyday essentials such as shoes, toiletries and a treat or two, next I will be shopping around for a PC to enable the girls to become IT literate to put the girls in good stead for when they leave the house and go into the big world where they will need to be able to fend for themselves and their children competing with many thers at such a young age with the responsibilties usually associated to peole older and in a more fortunate position then them by just having the support of a loving family. Next on my list are items for the little toddlers and babies such as educational toys, walkers, cots etc, whilst the girls are busy being taught life skills these poor little toddlers are having to entertain themselves with the odd doll or book they can get their hands on, its only fair and right that they get toys and books just like all children should. Other things on my list for the girls include books including reading, comprehension and colouring together with stationary, whilst the girls have some of these they must know them inside out and back to front, why you might ask, the answer, because they have merely a handful of books between them they trace, yes trace each page several times over on A4 sheets of paper and carry out the specific activity on the paper so that the book can be reused again and again, when I first realised why they were tracing I was totally stunned and upset, it actually took a while for it to register how little these girls have and what makes them even more special is the appreciation and consideration they have for the things they have no matter how small.

Every penny is invaluable to this very worthy cause and I cannot stress enough how much we are able to help.

Are we really a blessing or just very fortunate and kind enough to help where it is most needed?

Monday Blues? No Amigo´s!

Monday 12 October

Woke up this morning feeling blue... not quite when I realised that despite it being Monday my work was going to involve lots of fun with the Nino´s.


Some tried their best to inform me that I should be working but you will note that it didn´t quite work because...



we had far too much fun to have of course! Despite it raining this afternoon we still managed to have lots of fun and laughter. I must admit when I first got to the orphanage it was a sad scene, because all of the wheel chair bound children were literally strapped into their chairs and facing the television, there was no interaction or play going on, one of the reasons for this is because the staff are not able to provide the children with care and attention by way of play with them because there are not enough staff. It really is a shame because as with all children these kids love playing together and really do look out for another sharing their toys and giving each other hugs and cuddles at every opportunity, it really is sweet because they truly create a loving family environment for one another; their is a big brother / sister looking out for the younger ones.

Preparation for dinner time entails ensuring that the children are seated in their chairs 30 minutes before the meal is served, this really is a long time when you are a child (or me!) and are being made to sit with nothing to do or play with especially if you are hungry which most of the children are given that it is approaching their dinner time with the aroma of there dinners wafting in and so it really is quite a task to ensure that the children are kept entertained and happy for the waiting period before we are provided with their meal to be able to feed them, that said it is so heartwarming to be make the little ones laugh and smile needless to say it also very infectious...








Chocolate Fever Friday!

Saturday 10 October

Hola!

Yesterday (Friday 9/10) was just fantastic and no not just because it involved chocolate as you may have guessed from the title!

Walking into the safe house in the morning loaded with two big bags of grocery bags got the girls very curious from the moment they saw me...there was a slight nervousness and excitement all around until the girls found out exactly what we were going to be doing, big boxes of corn flakes, 24 bars of milk and white chocolate and of course marshmallows just for that little extra meant only one thing; corn flake cakes! When it was explained to the girls what we would be doing they were excited to say the least and so was I. I have never seen a group of children clear up tables, join them together, and be seated as quickly as I did on Friday, if it was a marathon they´d be the first to cross that line!

The excitement in the air was just electric for so many reasons; an activity involving chocolate usually in itself is a treat but for these girls it was so much more, for some it was the fact that they had not had any chocolate in two years, none of them had ever had corn flakes or marshmallows before, I am certain that when you read this it may give you some idea of how I felt upon hearing and realising this, I remained and was excited and enthusiastic but for a brief moment when I went in search of pots, pans etc and even as I type now I was and am deeply saddened and upset in learning this and recalling the incomprehensible things that these beautiful bright young girls (one as young as eight years old) have gone through, I needed a moment before being able to get back to the girls.

We were however, missing one essential item in order to make these corn flake cakes and despite me having scoured the super mercado from aisle to aisle twice over I still couldn’t find any cup cakes! I refused to be defeated where there is a will there is a way so we improvised:

What you need:
-Half a sheet of A4 paper;
-Colouring pencils;
-Scissors;
-Some sellotape; and
-A group of enthusiastic participants!

What you do
1. Design your half sheet of A4 with any kind of design you like, the only requirement is it must be full of colour and not taken seriously;
2. Ensure your name is clearly drawn on the paper;
3. Cut up the top end of the paper and using scissors fray the ends with adult supervision, and
4. Roll up like a cone and tape together using sellotape ensuring the designed side is outward facing!


The girls as you can see were just so engrossed in their designing it was great to see them enjoying what they were doing, I couldn’t get a peep out of them and they were so proud of their cones once they had been taped together.

Everyday two girls are on lunch duty which entails preparing lunch from scratch for all of the girls and staff at the safe house, unbelievable is the only word I can use to describe them when the girls are in chef mode, the size of the pans on the cooker is scary in itself but to see them stand on a stool to stir the big bubbling pans which are best described as vats is incredible they are not in the slightest phased. Whilst this rota system may appear a little harsh i.e. spending a morning cooking it is in fact another way in which the safe house is teaching them day to day life skills for when they leave the safe house. Needless to say of course when it came to the melting of the chocolate it was no problem! Before I could say ´willy wonka´ the girls had melted all of the chocolate in three separate bowls, one for each table, we moved the bowls into the main activity room where the girls had fun stirring in the corn flakes and then spooning the mixture in layers of white and milk chocolate in their individually designed cones, there was of course a sneaky tasting session by the girls OK, and me(!) but it would have been rude not to!

Next was the topping and decorating of the cones with mini marshmallows and most of the marshmallows did get used for decorative purposes before being devoured. Finally grab a spoon and enjoy! Nigella eat your heart out!



We had so much fun, the girls were brilliant and it was great to see all of them being able to partake in an activity altogether at the same time as opposed to in small groups.

You might be wondering why I have gone into so much detail in telling you about my morning with the girls in carrying out this simple activity with them, the reason is because I want to try and portray across to you as best as I can and if not fully then even just a fraction of the excitement, fun and enjoyment the girls and I had and how easy it can be to bring a smile and some happiness to a child's life.

Beautiful Day in Cusco

Wednesday 7 October

I enjoyed a sunny day here in Cusco today but what made it beautiful was not just the surroundings which really are breathtaking but the time I spent playing with the girls at the safe house this morning and the children at the orphanage this afternoon.


It is with great pride that I say that I have now passed on one of my all time childhood outdoor games ´hopscotch´ to the girls at the safe house and it was happily received, the game worked quatro fold because we not only practiced our numbers in English and Spanish, but we got to grip with some balancing (for the hopping part), got some exercise in and absorb the sunshine!

The reception that I got at the orphanage was just so warm and lovely, from the moment the children saw me they were reaching out their arms and jumping up and down in their wheelchairs just desperate to get out of them so they could play and out of their wheelchairs. They seem familiar with me now and know me by name which really is lovely but more importantly it’s such an honour and one of the nicest feelings to know that one of the reasons for the excitement when they see me is because they know that I am there to give them one to one attention on a fun and affectionate level as opposed to the nursing staff who really don’t have the time to spend with them other then to bath, feed and tend to their medical requirements. With the weather particularly nice today I thought it would be nice to take them outside and play on the grass area, they loved just being out of the building that they are stuck in day in day out and were more then happy just to crawl about on the grass and play with a ball.



Being outside was such a novelty for them that even the very boisterous ones were calm and smiley and did not seek any attention in their usual manner i.e crying and/or screaming and genuinely looked very happy. It really is so sad that other then when volunteers take the children outside they are restricted to being indoors because the orphanage just does not have the staff to take them outside and allow them to have a roll around in the grass the reason for this that due to their disabilities they need to be supervised at all times even in a cordoned off area, that brings me on to the saddest part of today which was having to take the children outside for only small amounts of time and on like a rota system to ensure that they all managed to get out in the sun.

On a more positive note however, it is so sweet to see the children playing together they really are a very close knit family and look after each other, making each other smile and give each other plenty of hugs when they get the chance to when they are out of their wheel chairs.
Being with the children really does put things into perspective and shows you exactly what the important things in life are.

In case you are wondering you will be pleased to know that I did win over the Chiquito, Frank, who I had inadvertently upset on Monday, a good few hugs and a visit from the tickle monster has put all right again, as you can see...

Welcomed with Open Arms

Tuesday 6 October

I had such a lovely morning with the girls today, when I got to the safe house they were getting on with their needlework, some knitting socks and others doing crochet, their skills are fantastic for girls of such young ages and I must admit they well and truly put me and my now proven non existent crochet skills to shame!



This is a part of their daily routine, the girls make things such as socks, scarves etc which are then sold with the proceeds being used to pay for teachers to come and teach them skills such as jewellery making and other arts and crafts and towards equipment for the safe house. One of the big aims of the safe house is to make the girls self sufficient and teach them skills that they can use to earn a living when they leave the house so that they are independent enough to look after themselves and their babies.
The girl pictured with her elder child now aged 16 years will be leaving the safe house soon with sufficient skills and acumen to set up a stall on the outskirts of the jungle which will enable her to provide for her two little children; her story is a sad one but which has a happy ending, at the tender age of thirteen the girl was abused by a male member of her family and fell pregnant at which point she was sent by her family to go and earn money, when she had had her baby she was thrown into prostitution and once again fell pregnant and having given birth to her second child she was abandoned by her family as she was perceived to be no good to the family anymore as she was unable to work with two children, she was rescued and brought to the safe house, having spent a few years there she now has the skills to be self sufficient and look after herself and her children but more importantly is strong and independent enough not to fall into her former life, this young girl’s story cannot demonstrate enough the invaluable work that this non state funded and 100% donation dependent safe house do.

The fact that I can’t crochet wasn’t held against me and in fact was quite the contrary as I was welcomed by the girls with open arms. The girls were very inquisitive and wanted to know all about me; where I was from, how old I was, whether I spoke any Japanese but what was even nicer was that they talked to me about themselves and seemed to be comfortable in doing so. The girl in the picture asked me if I had any children and when I replied no she went on to tell me that she had a little baby, she was un-phased by it, she is a joy and a pleasure (as are all the girls) to be around and when she was sat at the table knitting away you wouldn’t for one moment based on her young age and the innocence of a child she has (as clearly illustrated in her demeanour) expect her to be the caring tentative mother that she is; a young girl when she can be and instinctively a mother when she is required to be. I was informed that this young girl was rescued and brought to the safe house when it was discovered that whilst she was working at a rubbish tip she was visited and abused by a man once a week who paid her 30cents (less than 30p) per visit. I am sorry that I am passing on such truly sad and horrid histories of these beautiful young girls but I want to try and give you some level of appreciation of how much this safe house actually does in trying to ensure that these girls have a much better and happier future and that with help and love it is possible to change peoples lives for the better.

When I was asked by the girl in the picture below if I could speak Japanese I asked her why she had asked me such a question and her reply was that she would like to learn to learn to speak Japanese, she made me smile and even now thinking on about her response makes me smile and instils me with faith because what may at first thought seem like the impossible is indeed possible with the right help, support, determination and attitude to want to make things possible.

Final Destination

Monday 5 October

Hola,

I arrived in Cusco on Saturday morning, the sun was out the sky was clear and the surroundings just beautiful, completely the opposite to what Lima was like and anything I had expected, needless to say I was very pleasantly surprised just as well because what came next is not something that I could ever have prepared for.

I met with Jess the lady from POD and over lunch we talked about the placements I would be volunteering at etc.

In the afternoon I visited Casa Hogar La Esperanza (safe house for girls) to say hello and get to know my way around before actually starting there, this is my morning volunteer placement.

The house is well kept with the girls having a shared bedroom, a room where they do arts and crafts activities and a room for them to play with their children in. The girls at the house come from abused backgrounds, whereby their families have thrown them into prostitution, have been abused by male members of the family and they have either managed to escape or have fallen pregnant as a result of the abuse and then abandoned by their families, and all this to deal with at a tender of age of 12, 13, 14 and on. It is truly heartbreaking seeing these young girls with babies of their own and there you are looking at a mother who is merely a child herself and you cant begin to imagine what these poor young girls have been through, what they must be feeling or even what you and I see to be a normal life must be like. Upon hearing about their stories I was totally heartbroken. On a positive note I am really looking forward to spending some time here at the safe house, I have some activities in mind varying from sports such as rounders and seven stones to cooking small things like rice crispy cakes so please please can you send me some recipes (nothing that requires an oven though), I also think it would be lovely to make a fuss of these girls so what better then manicures all round, I know that to you and me these may seem like rather mundane things but when you hear about what the girls have been through these are the kinds of activities they enjoy, being able to behave their age and seeing the end results makes them feel like they have achieved aside from that before coming to the safe house they have never had the chance to play or cook or be pampered! Nb All other ideas most welcome.

Regretfully having had such a productive day on Saturday I fell ill during Saturday night with a bacterial infection which knocked me out so Sunday and this morning (Monday) was a write-off, I am however better now and back on track again.

This afternoon (Monday) I went to see what will be my afternoon volunteer placement a place called San Juan De Dios (an orphanage for disabled children). This place is just amazing as soon as I walked in the children were literally reaching out to hold my hand, to be hugged, to be played with and get my undivided attention, they were desperate to show me that they were able to stand up out of their wheelchairs unaided even if briefly, the pride they felt and their big smiles when they saw how impressed I was with their big achievement is just something words cannot describe. Needless to say I was in tears within minutes of being there. I will be stronger tomorrow.

The age ranges of these children varies from 18 months to a 30 year old lady who suffers from autism. The children are well looked after, dressed, fed and have their own beds, what they absolutely crave and lack is love and affection, once they have hold of you there is no letting go, one little boy really did fall out with me when I momentarily went to see to a baby who was crying in his cot, I am going to have to win the Chiquito around tomorrow! What is so special about these children is the look out they have for each other, tending to each other when crying, helping one another out of their wheelchairs, helping wheeling each other out if they have got stuck in a corner, it truly is amazing.

I am looking forward to tomorrow in the hope that I can put a smile on these children's faces and of course to win over the Chiquito who I inadvertently upset today, wish me luck!

Getting there....

2nd October 2009

So far so good, despite feeling rather emotional driving to the airport this morning namely due to the apprehension of not knowing what to expect, what I'd be dealing with and doubts of how much use I will be to anybody I was fine once I had boarded my first flight to Amsterdam. It made me smile and I couldn’t help but chuckle to myself when the Finish chap who had the misfortune of being sat next to me for the mammoth 13 hour flight asked if I was returning home to Peru, I wonder if it was because of any resemblance to Paddington Bear that made him ask?!I arrived in Lima this afternoon 4pm local time [aprox 9pm GMT] and the flight was enjoyable despite the duration of it. Another early start awaits me tomorrow morning when I board my last flight before reaching my final destination Cusco, I cant wait to get there! On that note I must go and catch some zzz's...more soon.

Peru, here I come

Using two weeks of my hard-earned annual holiday I am heading off to Peru for a very special reason…I am heading to an orphanage and safe-house in the city of Cusco in south-eastern Peru – 3,500m above sea-level in the Andes mountain range – to look after the day-to-day needs of babies, children and young girls aged 12 and upwards.The city of Cusco has a population of almost 400,000, and despite being a tourist destination, poverty is rife and the basic infrastructure of social services is very much that of a developing country.The “Casa Hogar La Esperanza” (“house of hope”) looks after young girls left to fend for themselves; some of whom have had children of their own at a very young age due to the abuse they have suffered.

The “Casa de Estrella” (“house of the stars”) is an orphanage for children - some with special needs - that have either been abandoned, or are from tough backgrounds. They have been through an awful lot – often simply to survive.
I have never been to Peru and going all on my own, so why am going? To track down Paddington Bear and also because when I ran the Paris Marathon earlier this year raising funds for the NSPCC I received so much support and help from friends, family, colleagues and even people I didn’t know on the run, it made me really think about the positive impact a stranger’s action can have on someone.

I want to help ‘hands on’ and be on the front line whether that involves cleaning, cooking and the day to day chores involved in the running of a safe house and orphanage. If I can help somebody smile or forget about the trials and tribulations of their daily life – even for a moment – then it will be more than worth it!